The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You

The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You Review

Alternately unsettling and affirming, devastating and delicious, The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You is a new collection of essays on gender and identity by S. Bear Bergman that is irrevocably honest and endlessly illuminating. With humor and grace, these essays deal with issues from women's spaces to the old boys' network, from gay male bathhouses to lesbian potlucks, from being a child to preparing to have one. Throughout, S. Bear Bergman shows us there are things you learn when you're visibly different from those around you—whether it's being transgressively gendered or readably queer. As a transmasculine person, Bergman keeps readers breathless and rapt in the freakshow tent long after the midway has gone dark, when the good hooch gets passed around and the best stories get told. Ze offers unique perspectives on issues that challenge, complicate, and confound the "official stories" about how gender and sexuality work.

Title:The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You
Edition Language:English

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  • Bear strikes again. Amusing and amazing--"Hey, I resemble that remark!" moments abound, where you would *never* expect them, at least not if you're not a formerly butch-identified New York Jew trannyf...

  • (The author's current pronouns are he/him; I will use those pronouns in this review) I've seen Bear speak on numerous occasions; we've shared space at events so I have first hand experience. I have pe...

  • QUICK POINT: I find it a bit surprising how many reviews use the wrong pronouns. In the book Bear is pretty clear on it and one would hope folks reading it would understand. Thanks, but I just had to ...

  • Best essays (so far - only 1/2 of the way through the book so far):- the nearest exit may be behind you (on always making sure you have a way to escape)- roadside assistance (about wanting potential h...

  • I was going back and forth on my opinion of this book the entire time I was reading it.At the start of it, I was getting annoyed at the author's use of the word "tranny", because this word really offe...

  • Bear Bergman is an incredibly gifted storyteller. Some of these pieces should be mandatory reading if you're a human; one in particular, about a harrowing plane ride and 100-mile drive over the Canadi...

  • This book was wonderful. Funny, interesting, compelling, thoughtful, honest. I recommend this book to everyone, but particularly to people who are queer, trans, or know and love someone who is. I can'...

  • In The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You, S. Bear Bergman explores life in the gray areas of the gender spectrum. Bergman examines such everyday things as feeling safe in a public restroom or a doctor’...

  • Bergman's inability to view themself within a broader context of queer and transgender rights makes the book ultimately uninteresting. It ends up coming across as a diary or blog of someone concerned ...

  • This is a really interesting book of essays written about being non gender normative in a very gender binary society. They're easy to read, but also give a great glimpse into Bergman's life and hir in...