She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband

She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband Review

Helen Boyd's husband, who had long been open about being a cross-dresser, was considering living as a woman full time. Suddenly, Boyd was confronted with the reality of what it would mean if her husband were actually to become a woman — socially, legally, and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way?
Boyd's first book, My Husband Betty, explored the relationships of cross-dressing men and their partners. Now, She's Not the Man I Married is both a sequel and a more expansive examination of gender in relationships. It's for couples who are homosexual or heterosexual, and for readers who fall anywhere along the gender continuum.
As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope, or don't, with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.

Title:She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband
Edition Language:English

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    Some Testimonial About This Book:

  • Okay, my original review was really mean, so I am editing it. Basically, I think that Helen and Betty have a phenomenally codependent relationship. I think that they also spend a lot of time in a cert...

  • I think really highly of this book. It's one of the most thought provoking things I've read in a long time.At first I was skeptical because the author was so unsure of how she felt about her husband t...

  • What I liked most about this book was her honesty about what it means to be in a long-term relationship with a Trans person during hir (no, that's not a typo) transition. I found wonderful messages ab...

  • Even if you don't happen to be married to a transgender husband, Helen Boyd has a lot of trenchant observations about gender roles in general. The very end of the book, written by her husband, made me...

  • Great, easily-readable exploration of the issues faced by a white, heterosexual, masculine woman when her husband comes out as trans. Explores the often-blurry lines between different gender identitie...

  • Meh, probably not going to finish. This might be interesting/groundbreaking if you're wholly unfamiliar with transgenderism, but the writing is really lackluster and 50 pages in, I'm already completel...

  • I'm giving this 3 stars, because in context of a certain audience (partners of trans people in transition) it has some value. It has some insight too in terms of larger discussions on gender in femini...

  • This book wasn't exactly what I expected. I hadn't read her first book called "My husband Betty" although it's sitting in my living room. This second book is more about relationships and the roles of ...

  • Very interesting subject matter. Seems to be a lot of information around right now about the experience of the transgendered person, but what about their loved ones? What would you do if your spouse w...

  • This is Helen's follow-up to My Husband Betty. In this book, she reveals the strong possiblity that Betty will decide to transition full-time to womanhood. This is more personal and intimate than her ...