The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together

The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together Review

From a leading clinical psychologist who has counseled couples and individuals for decades, a wise, radical, and optimistic approach to marriage that promises compatibility between an individual’s development and the often relentless demands of a relationship.

People today are trying to make their marriages work over longer lives than ever before—for their children’s health and well-being, and for their own. Indeed, among the college-educated, divorce rates have declined. But staying married isn’t always easy. In the brilliant, transformative, and optimistic The Rough Patch, clinical psychologist Daphne de Marneffe explores the extraordinary pushes and pulls of midlife marriage, where our need to develop as individuals can crash headlong into the demands of our relationships.

The Rough Patch is divided into chapters that address key problems that challenge marriages: money, alcohol and drugs, the stresses of parenthood, sex, extramarital affairs, lovesickness, health, aging, children leaving home, and dealing with elderly parents.

De Marneffe offers readers seasoned wisdom on these difficulties, addressing the psychological, emotional, and relational capacities we must cultivate to overcome them as individuals and as couples. Blending research, interviews, and clinical experience, and writing with uncommon insight into the daily behaviors of men and women, de Marneffe dives deep into the workings of love and the structures of relationships. Every reader will find himself or herself in these pages.

Intimate and sometimes gritty, The Rough Patch is an essential, compassionate resource for people trying to understand “where they are” on the continuum of marriage, giving them a chance to share in other people’s stories and struggles. With humor and deep seriousness, de Marneffe helps men and women understand themselves in order to move in the direction we’re all trying to go: a life lived with integrity, vitality, and love.

Title:The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
Edition Language:English

    Some Testimonial About This Book:

  • Pam Cipkowski

    Full disclosure: I am neither married at the time, nor living together with anyone. Yet I still found this a helpful and informative read with regards to relationships. When cultivating a relationship...

  • Cristine Mermaid

    To be fair, this is an ARC so it hasn't completely been edited yet so a couple of the issues I have with it may not be relevant by the time it is actually released.I started reading this on break and ...

  • Lilatovinl

    This was one of the most insightful relationship books I’ve ever read. At times I felt as if the author had been in the same room when me and my husband were arguing. She provides a refreshing outlo...

  • Nicole Heckel

    there were some really good messages in here but it just didn't feel as comprehensive as I would have liked. there was a lot of focus on children, which can't be generalized to a lot of couples, and t...

  • Wendy

    Trying to make a marriage work in this day and age is difficult with all the outside influences that so easily can rip apart the love and harmony that was initially experienced. “The Rough Patch” ...

  • Susan Underbrink

    A big thank you to NetGalley for the ARC. I am voluntarily reviewing this book. Not sure I got this as I am now separated . Maybe to see how I can avoid making the same mistakes. I found it interestin...

  • Hoss

    Thoughtful, insightful and deeply moving. Ms de Marneffe is a keen observer of “the rough patch” and what makes marriage work....

  • Sarah SL

    Excellent practical advice for middle age....

  • Susan

    I thought that this would be an interesting non-fiction. The content can be helpful for any relationship, but I just found the info un-relateable. ...

  • Arthur

    The best parts are the examples, which are interesting. The author tends to philosphize and generalize a bit much which is not everywhere interesting. I recommend skimming most of the book....